Books for Parents of Gay Children

Straight Parents Gay Children: Keeping Families Together. 203 pages, Robert A. Bernstein. Thunder's Mouth Press, 1995. Straight Parents Gay Children covers the most important issues parents face, and features a well-written chapter focusing on the experience of children who learn they are gay. Order this book here.

Coming Out to Parents: A Two-Way Survival Guide for Lesbians and Gay Men and Their Parents (2nd Edition). 320 pages, Mary V. Borhek, Pilgrim Press, 1993 (first published 1983). Provides an extensive description of the grieving process, and includes some information for non-parent family members. Order this book here.

Now That You Know: A Parents' Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children (3rd Edition). 281 pages, Betty Fairchild and Nancy Hayward, Harvest Books, 1997 (first published 1979). Order this book here.

Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians and Gays Talk About Their Experiences (Revised and Updated Edition). 234 pages, Carolyn W. Griffin, Marian J. Wirth, and Arthur G. Wirth, St. Martin's Press, 1997 (first published 1986). Covers the most important topics for parents, including initial reactions, religion, loss, and several myths, as well as including a good discussion of the process of telling others. Order this book here.

Ready or Not...They're Gay: Stories from a Midwestern Family. 184 pages, Paul Wagner and Hjordy Wagner, Synergy Books, 2009. The story of parents learning they had not one but two gay sons, and their process of growing acceptance and advocacy. Order this book here.

My Child is Gay. 193 pages, Bryce McDougall (Editor), Unwin Hyman, 1998. The reactions of fifty parents are presented when each learned his or her child was gay. Includes descriptions of both positive and negative reactions. Order this book here.

Coming Out As Parents: You and Your Homosexual Child. 101 pages, David K. Switzer, Westminster John Knox Press, 1996. Largely written for Christians, Coming Out As Parents encourages parents to express their feelings honestly, and includes detailed discussion of Biblical passages. Order this book here.

A Biblical Defense Guide For Gays, Lesbians and Those Who Love Them, Craig Bettendorf.

The Rainbow Connection: Help for Parents of Gay and Lesbian Children, Stephen M. White, Psy.D. A forthcoming workbook to help parents adjust. For more information write to the e-mail address below.

Additional Books for Parents

Is It a Choice?: Answers to 300 of the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Gays and Lesbian People (Revised edition). 240 pages, Eric Marcus, Harper San Francisco. Order this book here.

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